Word of the Month: Opportunity

 

Happy New Year! It’s hard to believe it’s already 2020! A new year, a new decade, and a reminder to focus on embracing the beauty and potential that lies within each one of us.

Traditionally the month of January is about resolutions, intentions & goals …but I’m personally not one to follow this annual tradition. Instead, I do my best every month to notice small things I did well or wish to do differently, take stock of the progress I’ve made or what I want to shift, and acknowledge the places in my life that require more or less focus. I appreciate our word of the month as a regular reminder for this monthly self-support and mind shift. It enables me to create opportunities all year long to focus on embracing myself, thriving, and lighting myself up.

A new year, though, is an exciting time! It offers each of us an opportunity to start fresh and to enter into a new decade with more mindfulness about the way we intend to move ahead. Doing so, helps us welcome all of the amazing things that are possible in life! 

This is why I love the idea of embracing OPPORTUNITY for January because it feels very different and less restrictive than both intention-setting or establishing certain New Years’ resolutions. Instead of stating what I WILL or WILL NOT do this year or what I WILL change, it infers that I remain open to observing the potential that lies on my day to day path- each and every day.

An opportunity is a set of circumstances that, by default, makes ALL things possible. In fact, the only thing that opportunity requires is that we remain curious about life and what it can be. I find that to be really exciting!

2019 definitely brought a lot of joy to my life. During this past cycle around the sun, I was gifted an infinite amount of life experience that forced me to grow, develop deeper connections with people I love and stretch what I think I could handle. And yet, I’ll be honest… the amount of difficulty and frustration I faced was also very real, and I am pretty certain I am not alone in this feeling. When I look at where I am now, I’ll admit that while happy, there will always be areas in my life that I want to work on so positive changes can continue to occur. My aim is to simply acknowledge what those areas are and then work to stay open and engaged so that I am able to notice when an opportunity comes my way to make this positive shift.

One area in my life that is a high priority, always, is my connection and interactions with my three teenagers. (Okay. Only two of them are full-on teenagers but one is close enough, so I like to claim I have three! Please don’t tell them I’m talking about them 🤫). Parenting has always been difficult- and now, with the constant technology and social media (unknown territory for my generation to know how to help them navigate), it’s so easy to continually question the decisions that I make. I am sure many parents relate to the fact that this is overwhelming and quite literally throws us off our/my center. By embracing the opportunity to learn and shift in my actions and reactions, instead of staying stuck in patterns, it helps me be there when they need me – even if they feel like they don’t (and usually they feel like they don’t! 🙄). I am able to model for them how to supportively show up in their own interactions. It also helps me feel more confident that I’m truly doing my best. After all, they are the most important people in my life.  I aim to stay open to the opportunities that arise to best be able to guide them to become even more amazing, confident, intelligent and kind people. 

Whenever I can, I like the opportunity to share with you some ways you may bring attention and reflection on our Word of the Month focus into your TDM practice. For January, here are some insightful ways that Master Teacher, Katina Griffin suggests we look at “Opportunity” this month while taking our Dailey Method classes. They also relate to day to day interactions.

  • Opportunity lives on the heels of deciding to make a different choice. Take an opportunity before you leave today and introduce yourself to someone you work out next to every week. You never know what that one interaction could turn into.
  • Take an opportunity in class today when you feel particularly challenged to see if taking a deep breath helps you to invite more SPACE for ease and therefore the strength to get through the effort.
  • You have an opportunity to show up in your day however you decide. Decide now!

Let’s open our minds and hearts and amaze ourselves at the potential that presents itself in 2020! This won’t always be easy – especially when times feel weighted, overwhelming or like they are on a plateau. Shift perspective from what isn’t right and acknowledge that this E-MOTION – this feeling you feel – is merely the Now. It’s just like the word reads – “motion”. it’s moving. And as the old Buddhist saying goes…”This too shall pass”. There’s ultimate potential for it to be/feel better. Do this with an extraordinary commitment to optimize your connections, personal growth, happiness and joy ….. one step at a time.

Happy New Year. Happy New Opportunities!

Love,

Jill

Jill’s Holiday Gift Guide

One of the ways that I work on bringing Bliss (our Dailey Method Word of the Month) into my life is by letting go of unease, trepidation or nagging thoughts that can creep into my mind. I approach this goal by turning my focus to the positive, both in regard to things in my life and also in the world. With this in mind, I search for things that help simplify my life, make me physically more comfortable and enable me to support making our world a better place- which all result in a more positive mindset.

I curated this holiday gift guide with some of my favorite things with those intentions in mind. I also reached out to get great discounts just for you- our Dailey Method community- because bliss can also be saving time and $$ on great holiday gifts from companies that make a difference – whether for personal self-love or for people that you love! Follow @daileymethod and @jilldailey on Instagram because for the next 8 days we have giveaways of these amazing products. All you have to do is like and comment on the post for your chance to win!

Dailey by Dino: You probably have heard by now, I’m a huge fan of Dino Apparel AND Suzanne Rijvenald, the brilliant mind behind the brand. I’m beyond excited to announce that we’re ending the year with a new beginning, by offering the first style of our much anticipated Dailey Lifestyle collaboration. As a soft launch (literally the softest ever!) of what’s to come in 2020, the Dailey Duster pictured above makes its debut right here! This first, of many pieces we’ll be rolling out over the next few months, I wanted this to wear over my workout clothes to and from the Studio and also to carry me throughout my busy days and into the evening. This gorgeous Duster is available for pre-order today through Monday, December 9th to ensure delivery to you for the Holidays. The fabric is called botanical cashmere-soft as cashmere but made from nature. This collaboration is our way to combine forces by using our passions to advocate for the wellness of people and the planet!

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Vertly Bath Soak-  The Holidays can get CRAZY and what better way to prioritize self-love than to take time to and for yourself with a bath?  Vertly’s signature CBD soak helps with aches and soreness – whether due to exercise, travel or the daily stresses of life. And I love that I actually sleep better after using it. It features a unique combination of natural healing salts, minerals, cannabinoids and calming essential oil blends of lavender, lemon and clary sage. Believe me- this product is amazing! It’s a little pricey but much cheaper than a massage. It’s a great idea for a hostess or pampering gift for someone you love- even if that person is you!

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Good Eggs: Mealtime is incredibly important to me for connecting with my kids and also for ensuring that they are eating healthy food. I love to cook, but honestly, sometimes I struggle with finding the time. One of the all-time best time-saving resources I’ve found is Good Eggs grocery delivery service. They take out the middle man so items are delivered to them fresh each day from local farms and companies and then delivered directly to your door*. And they have a huge selection of organic items and absolutely everything you need to make any meal special. It’s a huge time saver to order groceries online and if I order before 1PM I can generally get it delivered that same evening. Recently I’ve been ordering a lot of their meal kits which we all LOVE!  They deliver all of the ingredients and a recipe card so I still get to prepare the meal without all of the extra planning. And honestly, they’re incredibly affordable. In 30 minutes or less, I can actively cook and prepare a great meal for my family of 4 for $30 with oftentimes leftovers for the next day. The Vietnamese-Style Salmon Sandwiches are one of the many hits that are popular with everyone (and that’s not always an easy task!). When something supports me in feeling like a better Mom it’s a resource that’s invaluable.

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EO night serum:

I’ve personally used EO products in my home and in my studios for years. I love the quality and affordability of their products. I was recently turned on to their Ageless Skincare Transformative Night Serum. It contains helichrysum and rose essential oils in an Argan Oil base. I love how smooth and moisturized my skin looks in the AM. I use it during the day sometimes too- great for when the weather changes and your skin gets drier. Along with loving their products I also hugely appreciate what they stand for as a company with their consistent efforts to care for our planet.

Here is their Mission Statement: For 23 years, we’ve been inspired to share our passion for nature’s pure essential oils. To blend their evocative scents with safe, natural, effective ingredients. And to live and work wholeheartedly, in a way that honors the well-being of all people and the planet we all share. Manufacturing plant-based body care products to guide us in choosing safe, natural, organic, and sustainably-farmed ingredients. We’re exacting – and fully transparent – about every ingredient in every bottle. Good for people, good for the planet and good for the community. 

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Busy Beauty Body Wipes:

Let’s be honest 🤫 sometimes I don’t always have time for a shower. I was turned onto these amazing Body wipes by Busy Beauty and they’ve helped me out on numerous occasions. They’re vegan, cruelty-free, paraben free, and phthalates free!! And they’re big enough to help me feel incredibly clean and fresh when I might have only 3 minutes to make that happen. Yes, there is a waste component but living in California I’m also very conscientious in the value of saving the water it takes for a shower. I also appreciate the company’s goal to continue to improve the impact they have on our environment. Although the wipes aren’t biodegradable right now, their goal is to change that in 2020- so if not right for you now keep them on your radar!

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Iris & RomeoBest Skin Days – I was recently gifted this product and have to say my skin loves it as a part of my skincare regime. I love that the 5-in-1 formula is a serum, moisturizer, sheer coverage, sunscreen, and blue light/pollution protector. It’s an instant skin beautifier that gives natural coverage and a dewy, glowy finish, while also protecting against UVA and UVB sunlight and oxidative stress caused from blue light. If you’re looking for something else to add into your regime to keep you moisturized and highly protected during the day I highly recommend it this product!

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Quanta CBD muscle rub- If you do the Dailey Method you understand sore muscles! I love topical CBD products for just that purpose and Quanta is one of my all-time favorites! It has a great menthol smell (but you can get it without it if menthol is not for you), all natural ingredients of cannabidiol, arnica, tumeric and a proprietary blend of essential oils for maximum anti-inflammatory relief.

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Tavi Holiday socks:  Oh what I would do without barre socks? Yes, I clearly have more than any one girl needs but it’s hard to resist when new designs come out? Especially now that TDM has partnered with Tavi Noir so I get to add some of my dream designs into their already amazing repertoire. One of my current favorites is our black feathered holiday style. We always need black socks- and little detail it makes class just that much more fun and foundation for your barre class that much easier! You can find these and/or other styles at your local Dailey Method Studio or….. enter to win one on instagram this week! 🤞

Happy Blissful Shopping!

Love, Jill

Word of the Month: Purpose

Purpose:

  • the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists (noun)
  • have as one’s intention or objective (verb)

At The Dailey Method, we’ve been selecting a Word of the Month (WOM) since 2013! For me, this practice was a stepping stone into incorporating meditation into my work, but more importantly into my life as a whole. Allowing myself focused energy to reflect on a word each month enables me to notice how I’m feeling about different aspects and what I may currently need to shift in order to continue to grow. 

The WOM is generally chosen in advance. This means that oftentimes, as I prepare for the start of a new month, it can be the first time I reflect on what it signifies for me. When I sat down to write this blog and read the word “Purpose” on my list, I was slightly surprised that a wave of gratitude immediately ran through me.

I reflected on the gratitude as it reminded me of the love and purpose I serve in my professional life and highlighted for me WHY I wake up every day and continue to do what I do. Through the amazing times and the difficult ones, I care about helping people shine their brightest. It is always my desire to support people in discovering their greatest capacity for strength both in their bodies and in their lives. 

There are so many ways we can think of “our purpose” in life. Our PURPOSE is what we were put on this earth to contribute. Why we matter and how we can make a difference.

I feel extremely fortunate because I found my purpose early, as I am aware that many people struggle with finding their professional path. It was almost as though, my purpose found ME. 

One aspect I believe that has helped me stay focused is my belief that we will succeed at whatever we set out to do. Trust in our personal strengths and gifts plus our intentional focus to put our effort and energy towards it, is exactly what makes us successful. In fact, the more time and effort we enable ourselves to spend on a particular goal, the better we are at accomplishing it.

Purpose, though, is not just defined by our profession or one BIG thing we potentially offer to the world. For instance, we each serve many important purposes during our lives.

A huge one of mine is being a mother to my three beautiful kids. I appreciate the space to reflect on what being purposeful in my contributions to my kids’ lives actually means in my relationships with each of them. I am reminded of how impactful it is to show up for them each day so that I succeed at serving my purpose as the best mom I can be. This includes practicing good self-care so that they learn from me while receiving all the best parts of me. Remember! We all have the capacity to significantly impact people’s lives every day and it can be in the smallest of ways. 

Here are a few reflections from Master Teacher Trainer, Katina Griffin, for our Dailey Method teachers on the word, Purpose:

  • Attack everything in class today with purpose, just as you would a complex life goal. Focus with intentional, purposeful movement and use this as the vehicle to take your TDM practice to a new level. This can be as easy as focusing on your back leg alignment in a split!
  • What do you think of when you hear the word “purpose”? Purpose can simply be about why you decided to come to class today just as it can mean something more profound. Whatever it is, be purposeful in your execution as a way to maximize your power and strength inside and outside this room. 
  • Wherever you are in your life – in whatever familial role, work title, job/or lack thereof that you currently hold – trust that YOU have a purpose and a reason for being here. Your life is purposeful – You get to decide HOW. Decide in small ways every day and remember to start with: “I am significant and my life has meaning.”

I love these! Relate them to while you’re taking a class and notice how each one is also relevant to our lives outside the classroom. 

Think about your own personal purpose. Expand on it. Amplify it. What can you give? Add yours to the world and truly know you make a difference!

Love,

Jill

 

 

 

Word of the Month: Intention

Intention: 

  • a thing intended; an aim or plan.

At The Dailey Method, we recommend that you start your practice with intention. If you’re a student, you’ve heard us remind you to  check back in with your set intention during the workout and then once again as you settle into your final resting pose at the end. 

We encourage you to carry this with you throughout your day because going back to the intention you set is what helps you stay present within yourself and with those around you. There are so many intentions to choose from: move with your breath, move with grace, forgive yourself or simply to shine your light out. The options for intentions are limitless and can be altered even just slightly each day. To correlate with where you are RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW!

Personally, I am grateful for this process being part of my Dailey practice so I can continue to improve upon keeping an intention each day throughout everything I do since it is a built-in opportunity for me to bring myself back to the present.

Intention:

  • the healing process of a wound.

The second definition of Intention made me stop hard when I first read it, but it is true! Just as everything in life is a process, the intentions we set and do our best to live by are a means to healing wounds; wounds that have been passed down to us, or that are self-inflicted. A conscious practice to move past thoughts or feelings we’re holding onto, helps us become more able to continue in a more positive direction so that we can let go, truly heal and just BE.

To move intentionally within your body allows you to fully notice how your body is feeling so that you can acknowledge it at that time. Some days we push ourselves harder than others and yet some other days, we push too hard! We do this both in class and in other areas of our life. It’s necessary to remember how important it is to permit ourselves to allow for our body’s rhythms or fatigue, to make space for our humanness, feelings, or even our need to be vulnerable.

Exercising intentionally also adds in the component of being mindful of what and how you’re moving. At The Dailey Method, we sometimes refer to this as a meditation in movement.

Here are intentions that one of my favorite teachers, TDM Master Teacher Trainer Katina Griffin, wrote as inspiration for our teachers for talking points this month:

  1. Be INTENTIONAL about the way you set up each exercise today. Remember that just like in life, taking a moment to pause and build the appropriate foundation will undoubtedly provide you the support necessary to be 100% successful on your journey. The same is true for your SeatWork!
  2.  When things get challenging for you in any particular place in class today – set an INTENTION to pause and revisit the fact that we are ALL on this same path and doing this exercise together. All the tools you need to be fully successful are given to you – even if it means you take a quick rest or a reset of your alignment!
  3.  As you leave here, move with deliberate INTENTION and show up at your next appointment, event, family thing, or grocery shopping excursion as the greatest version of you. You just rocked this class and brought effort, strength, perseverance, and commitment. Bring that into your life. Things are looking up!

I generally have a couple of intentions I focus on each month to support myself in my mindfulness, yet the one I am specifically focusing on right now is the word CALM and how I may use just the simplicity of that word to remind me of the small ways I can create stillness and remain present in all the chaos that life throws my way. 

What are yours? 

Intentionally sending you LOVE!

Jill

 

Autoimmune disease and Trauma: The Dailey Method Connection

Autoimmune disease and Trauma: The Dailey Method Connection

Written by Casey Hersch, MSW, LCSW

As I stepped into the gym for my daily workout, I looked around and saw how many people were staring at screens, listening to music, or lost in thought. I imagined many of the thoughts were focused on the end of the workout rather than a moment by moment experience of the workout. Some people looked at their clocks, maybe they were counting down the time remaining before the workout ended. Sadly, people didn’t look like they were enjoying themselves; I didn’t see people laughing while on the treadmill. I used to be one of these people. Exercise was a means to an end. It was a way I kept a lean figure, reduced stress, and maintained muscle mass. There were many days I didn’t feel like going to the gym, but I did anyways, because I was addicted to fitness. I loved how it made me feel as my brain’s happy chemicals flooded my body. 

Today, I view exercise very different than I did a decade ago. I am grateful my attitude and behaviors changed. Had I continued my intense workouts–deriving little joy from them, and straining my joints so I could feel surges of happy chemicals– I would have missed the health benefits I had yet to realize.

I discovered The Dailey Method at a time when I needed it the most. My passion for ballroom dance, and a desire to strengthen my body so I could dance with less injury, drew me to Dailey Method. But once I began, the reasons why I made a long-term commitment to Dailey Method were much bigger. Being truthful to myself, I needed to admit I could no longer sustain the high intensity, cardio blast, calorie busting workouts I was accustomed to. I had Crohn’s disease, an autoimmune inflammatory disease affecting the large and small intestine. While exercise was a big part of my healing, because it reduced stress AND inflammation in my body (the hallmark of autoimmune illnesses), my exercise approach was not in balance. I needed to care for my body and support its healing in ways that rejuvenated it from the inside out. It wasn’t until I discovered Dailey Method that I started to understand how structured workouts can be fun and productive at the same time. I also began to realize that it is possible to take care of one’s body and nurture it while accomplishing fitness goals. 

Trauma and Autoimmune disease separate me from my body

I had a long history of disregarding my body. I experienced childhood trauma that shaped my understanding of my relationship with my body. I didn’t know how to be comfortable in my body because as a child, I had to hide my feelings to keep myself safe. My childhood was dangerous and all I wanted to do was escape my body. This was compounded by chronic illness. I hated my body because it was a place of discomfort and unexplained symptoms. One way I coped with my relationship with my body was to over exercise and push my body beyond its limits; this made me feel in control. I had so many stress hormones pumping through my body from a natural response to trauma called ‘fight or flight,’ that I couldn’t manage the resulting anxiety and nervousness. Compulsive exercising helped me release and cope with an abundance of stress hormones. I thought this was a healthy way to cope. However, balance is critical in order for true healing to take place; this involves an integration of physical and emotional healing as well as incorporating one’s passion (what makes life worth living). Exercising too hard and depleting my already vulnerable immune system was not balance. A much healthier approach to cope with trauma and the stressors of chronic illness was to develop an authentic relationship with my body. This would allow me to understand my feelings, notice sensations and symptoms, and express them appropriately through mental health therapy, activities that brought me joy, and supportive relationships. Dailey Method provided one way for me cultivate this relationship with my body.

Strengthening my relationship with my body

A perfect transition for hard-core cardio fans, Dailey Method gets the heart pumping and the muscles working with varied intensities; it is empowering because there are many choices to make it one’s own. Dailey Method is typically not called a workout but instead is called a ‘practice.’ Language creates meaning, and practice suggests an experience beyond an exercise regimen. I wasn’t participating to get my workout done; I was participating in a practice that involved all parts of my body and self. This practice was my own and much like my dancing practices, it inspired growth and personal development along the way. For the first time, I accomplished my need to have a challenging physical workout BUT in a balanced, gentle, and mindful way. This was a foundation for self-care and moving through my life with body awareness. 

Principles of Dailey Method transfer to LIFE

Each exercise draws attention to the inside of the body and how all parts of the body work together to support each other. Through noticing one’s foot foundation, there is an invitation to appreciate how our bodies bring us confidence and ground us to ourselves and the world around us. Dailey Method emphasizes alignment but not only in the sense of our physical bodies standing straight. The focus on alignment expands to a holistic philosophy: Only once our bodies are aligned and our authentic selves participate in this collaboration with our bodies, are we able to be aligned in our greater purpose and day to day intentions. Our bodies are always communicating with us; sometimes the messages are subtle and we ignore them. But, Dailey Method awakens an awareness of the language of the body and this makes us more mindful of what it needs to heal and feel good. 

Mind-body approaches enhance healing

For those of us with trauma, autoimmune disease, and chronic illness, it is easy to develop a detached relationship from one’s body. Movement is very important for healing. Our bodies express themselves through movement and this is an essential component in healing from trauma. Illness is never one dimensional. Healing is always enhanced with approaches that show how the body works for us and in coordination with each part of the body and our environment. Dailey Method honors these connections and because of my practice, I am making connections with myself that are furthering my healing.

Finding meaning in exercise

Today, I no longer view exercise as a means to an end. It is a process where I can be in the moment and enjoy the lessons my body teaches me about life. As I continue to develop my Dailey Method practice, it supports the other practices in my life. I feel confident and empowered as a woman. I know myself better than anyone else knows me. Because of this, I like my body, not only for its physical strength, but for the limitless potential it has to heal and enhance my life experiences. I feel subtle changes in my body as it learns to move with ease, but I know the changes that have taken place in the rest of my life because of it. 

 

Casey Hersch, MSW, LCSW is a licensed clinical social worker, author, and founder of www.lightyoursparkle.life. She specializes in chronic illness, trauma, and integrative models for healing. Inspired by her own struggles with autoimmune illnesses and trauma, she educates about empowerment and how to build individualized healing plans.

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